Get Motivated

It is human nature to get excited about new possibilities. Our endorphins (the happy hormones) start to flow as our imaginations show us the person we want to be, the things we want to have or take us to places we want to see. This euphoric state usually starts to fade once confronted with the realities of life The realities like; Your present job needs you to focus on it; Your relationships with your family don't allow you the uninterrupted time you need; Other people don't get excited the same way you did.

So what do you do? How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time! Get the feelings of excitement out of your head and on to a piece of paper. What is making you feel this way? Write it down. Until you can see WHY you want something, it will simply remain a feeling, subject to getting pushed around by other feelings, degraded and diminished by thoughts and influences of others.

Now that it is written you can refer to it, it is a thing, no longer just a feeling. The next step is to decide what you will do. I say "will do", not "can do", "want to do", or "should do". The latter three will set you up for guilt or failure. Allow yourself to succeed. If you "should" talk to ten people every day, but you know you won't, then if you just talk to one or three, you have failed. No matter how well the "talks" went, you didn't do what you said you would do(or usually someone else said you should do). On the other hand, if you know you can and will talk with two people every day (or Monday, Wednesday and Saturday) and you do it, you have succeeded, and guess what comes with success? More happy hormones!

Find a "buddy". You need someone to share your feelings with, someone to lean on, someone to keep you focused and bring you back on track when you stray. It can be a spouse, a good friend or a business associate, but they must be positive and have your best interests in mind.

Work your plan consistently, make changes when you need to, build on your successes, and most importantly, don't quit. Your dream may change, it may evolve differently than what you first saw in your imagination, but if you feel it is worth having, persist until you succeed!